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Holy shit, this is brilliant. It definitely feels like you went into my head and explored all the things i've been thinking about, trying to wrap my head around forever, and I think a lot of people have. Thankyou for writing this, its really amazing to see all the right questions being asked, every person, every perspective being included in the discussion. This is truly, an incredible essay, I want to share with everyone I know. ❤️ I also think this is what Pamela would want to read, this kind of discussion being had, and not many people publish things like that, so thank you 🤍

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Ooooofffff this gave me all of the feels and am legit sitting here with tears in my eyes. Am grateful to know you and learn from you and be in conversation with you friend 🖤🖤🖤

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I finally got to read this and cried cried cried. Brilliant, thank you ❤️

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<3 <3 <3

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Yessss! Love this ❤️🙏🏻

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“Is the porn the problem or is our relationship to it, and all the mental/emotional/spiritual baggage that we’re carrying with us when we view it? Is porn the problem, or is the problem that we live in a system where we need money to live, and that for some people making money (in any industry) will be more challenging? Is rough sex the problem, or is a culture where we are not taught to communicate with partners about sex the problem? More thorny: are attractions and desires our own or the socially constructed impulses of a white supremacist society?”👏🏻🙌🏻

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“I am not a victim,” she says, despite it all. It is a decidedly neoliberal message, but one I would never try to deny her; there’s a time to insist on the destructiveness of oppressive forces, and there’s a time to go on anyway.🔥🖤

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